I'll just come right out with it. I'm baby-hungry. Cole is now two, and with Rix, when he was two, I had just had Bryce. And with Bryce, he was only 18 months when I had Cole. Now Cole is two and...nothing. There is no baby. Granted, I did say I wanted to wait a little longer before Bryan and I added more to our adorable brood, but I'm getting the itch.
Watching home videos of the boys when they were younger, seeing tiny baby clothes in the store, and of course seeing other people who have little babies makes me want one NOW (no, not in nine months, now dang it.). I know you moms out there totally get this. Right? I'm not alone? I know you all have been baby-hungry at one time or another. So what's holding me back? If I want one so bad, why not just go for it? Well, I haven't really convinced Bryan yet that we need another baby.
If it were up to him, we'd be done.
But, it's not completely up to him :) Here are the issues at hand, and please feel free (because I know you will) give me your advice and opinions.
*Babies cost money. Not just the hospital bill and all, but diapers, food, clothes, and eventually T-ball fees, extra airplane tickets, and, if it's a girl, girl stuff (because, duh, we don't have any). We make ends meet just fine every month with the three boys. I'm fabulously frugal, and spend only $200 a month on groceries and can haggle with the best of them. But will one more baby push us over the edge?
*Babies cause insanity. With three boys, we are having a great time. Wrestling, sword fighting, and Legoes keep us on our toes, but we love it. But there are times when we are ready to pull our hair out (okay, if Bryan had some he would pull it out) because of the whining, fighting, and plain orneryness that my kids inherited from their father. Will one more baby make us go more crazy than we already are?
*Babies take up space. I love our house, but we knew going into it that we were going to fix it up and sell it for a profit. And then that darn economy went haywire (how thoughtless of you, economy!). Bryan and I could be ready to sell within the year, but I don't know if we would get out of it what we want to, and maybe waiting for the economy to turn around would be best. But if we didn't sell right away, where will the baby go? Share a room with one of the boys? And we are already stepping on each other's toes most of the time (we need more space!), but will a baby make it worse?
*Babies are messy. With a house already under construction most of the time, and three boys to help make the mess messier, will I lose my sanity in trying to keep the house clean with a baby to take care of as well? I don't do well with messes, and I know that babies spit up, leak out of diapers, and put everything in their mouths (nails anyone? chunks of wood maybe?).
So how do you know when it's the right time? Are any of these issues even issues to begin with? Or should my maternal instincts veto Bryan's, um, non-maternal instincts?
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
To Stop, or Not To Stop...
Posted by Celeste Pearson at 1:54 PM
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I'm wondering the same thing now. Will we be done with four when I've always planned on six? We always say, if it's for selfish reasons we know it's not a good excuse to stop....but then, there are many general authorities with three, four kids... I dunno. But, I've heard how great it is to have a nice four year gap between your kids. And that's what I'm counting on for now. We're not done, we're taking a nice looooong break!
If it were up to me Dave and I would still be having babies...that being said, I am really glad that Jayson is our last. One of the really good reasons why I chose daycare as my profession is that I get to play with babies ALL DAY LONG...then send them home to their mommies, while I get a great night's sleep. I once asked my grandma how she knew she was done having babies and if she ever felt like having more kids. She said that she NEVER felt like she was done. This was after SEVEN kids. Good luck figuring it out. I wish I could help you.
Have you made a list of all the positives of having another child? Of course babies cost money and are messy and stuff, but there alot of pros, too. Maybe fast about it together? This question is still up in the air for us, right now we don't want more but who knows in a year or two. Good luck with your decision!
GO FOR IT!!!
I think that it is something you just need to keep thinking about. Kelli's right, there are pros and cons and you did a great job posting the cons, but what about the pros? If you feel in your heart that there is another sweet spirit waiting to join your family, then pray about it with Bryan. I think there is a never a "perfect" time to have a baby and you could end up waiting until it's too late.
I agree..fast, pray and you will get an answer. Sometimes when we really want something dosent mean we are ready for it and other times we are.
On another note you spend $200 a month on groceries!!! How I'm almost at 600 a month with only two kids!!
Better watch out--every time I wondered if it was time to have another baby--I was already pregnant--surprise!
well, I think you are a great mom, and I really look up to you. I'm sure whatever is susposed to happen will happen :) lol. No advice from me cuz I'm not baby hungry at all. I'm in the heat of it, and loving my little angel! Good Luck though. :)
Well, I don't really have any advice. I don't have any kids yet, but know the feeling of the baby itch. :) I keep having dreams that I'm pregnant (which I'm not!), and I always wake up sad that it's not true yet. But I agree with everyone else. Pray about it, see what happens. And think about the positives of having a new baby! :)
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